Hear me out. Breakups are NOT fun. Even if you’re the one ending the relationship and you know it’s in the best interest of both parties, a breakup is a serious life change that comes with tons of varying emotions.
But after a breakup, there are both tempting things and things you should definitely not do. You’re in a vulnerable state emotionally, and it can be difficult to truly think rationally…even if it feels like that’s not an issue. You want to make sure you don’t do or say anything that you might regret, and playing it safe is usually in your best interest.
Even if you’ve ended things on good terms, there’s always no harm in taking a step back and making sure you’re doing the right thing. When you “stay friends,” it can be even more difficult to make that transition found couple to friends. But in time, things will become a bit easier and you’ll fall into a more natural rhythm that works for both of you.
In the meantime, here are 3 things that you should definitely not do right after a breakup:
Make unnecessary contact
Depending on your situation, this will either be easy or quite difficult. But for the most part, it will be easier for both parties if any contact is kept to a minimum for a while. This means no texting “for closure,” no asking for explanations, no texting randomly, and certainly no showing up where they might be. It’s normal to miss the other person, but now is not the time to try to force anything or annoy them into hating you.
Rub in the fact that you’re “happier now”
Although it’s tough to see at the time, many people emerge from relationships happier than they were before. In fact, it’s best if they do! If you ARE finding that you’re happier now, do what you can to not flaunt that, especially over social media. Doing so shines you in a less than flattering light and might make it seem like you are trying to make the other party feel bad. But without making it into a scene, definitely enjoy this period of your life too!
Refuse to let go
Unfortunately, many good things must eventually come to an end. Maybe it wasn’t the ending you were hoping for, but at this time it’s probably best that you just try to figure out how to make the most of it. It might not seem like it now, but you will eventually move on and you will eventually feel better about how everything ultimately worked out. But refusing to let go only makes the situation more difficult for everyone involved and will make you even more unhappy as you try to move on.
What other tips might you have for those who have just experienced a breakup?