Relationships are tricky things; they bring us great joy, fulfillment, and companionship, but also sometimes feelings of fear, sadness, or uncertainty. It’s normal to experience all of these things during the life of your relationship. Of course, we’d still like to keep things happy as much as possible.
I recently read an interview with an older lady who’s husband had recently passed away. When she was asked what she would remember most about their relationship, she responded that their willingness to always work toward a better relationship was what she would continue to value. To me that says a lot – if both parties are always striving to make for an even better relationship, the results will likely be very powerful!
If you ask someone who’s been in a relationship for a long, long time, there’s a good chance that they’ll tell you that great relationships take work – a LOT of work. You’ll be tempted to get angry when what’s best is to stay calm. You’ll be tempted to give up when all could be solved with just an honest chat. In the end, the work you put into your relationship will be worth it but it won’t always be easy.
If you want to make sure that your relationship stays strong, happy, and fulfilling for both parties, here are a few things that I recommend.
Strive to see things from their perspective
In any relationship, you’re never going to agree all of the time. Even if you did, that wouldn’t make for a very good balance in the long term. You don’t have to see eye to eye, but you can save yourself some brutal arguments if you simply aim to see things from their perspective. Taking that step back to see things their way will give you a few moments to calm down, understand their point of view, and evaluate whether you’re even correct in the first place.
Let go of grudges
Anger and frustration happens, but it’s up to you to choose whether you will continue to be bitter and hold a grudge, or whether you’ll move on and aim for happiness. Typically, little good comes from staying angry. You’ll find yourself exhausted, more frustrated, and likely a bit guilty. Your time is better spent trying to reach some sort of understanding rather than putting your energy into staying angry.
Be realistic about your expectations
No one is perfect, and the more you expect your partner to be perfect, the more disappointed you’re both going to be. When in doubt, ask yourself, “If they expected the same of me, how would I react?” When you allow them to be flawed, you can better accept them for who they are. And chances are, they’re a pretty darn cool person there for you to enjoy.
How do you make your relationship better? Share your thoughts in the comments section!