You are You and You and You

No one in the world is more you than you. Fact.

Here’s some more news – no one will EVER be exactly like you….so why not take advantage of the opportunity to let the world get to know you?


With all of the pressures people face on a daily basis, be it school, work, relationships, etc., it’s sometimes hard to keep sight on who we really are. We are so accustomed to feeling like we have to impress people in order to make them like us, when in reality if we just chilled out a bit, everyone would probably like us even more and value how smoothly you handle life.


But we have been impressing people for so long, how do we just chill out and focus on who we really are without seeming like we are trying too hard?

Well, I’m thrilled you asked! Here are my tips!





1. Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks! 

Some girl the other day told you that you would look good in a bright orange woven wool sweater. Naturally you went out and bought one, because you’ve been trying to get this girl to notice you and be your friend for months now.  Unfortunately, the sweater is itchy, uncomfortable, and you’ve always despised the color orange. Point blank – you HATE the sweater. But do you really care? You’re not wearing the sweater for you, you’re wearing it for her, right?

Well, my friend, that’s the problem!

If you’re doing something that doesn’t make you happy, then you’re not being 100% you.  Who cares if your sweater isn’t the fresh new trend, if its comfortable and you can be yourself in it, WHO CARES?! You’re happy, you give good vibes to people, and when you feel good about yourself, you don’t even notice the sweater.

We all know I hate clichés, but hear me out on this one – if it’s what you want, go for it. Your happiness is what really matters at the end of the day.


Put simply -  Stop defining yourself by how others view you and start defining yourself in your own terms.


2. Don’t let your past hold you back. 

Very rarely do we look back on photographs and think that we made good decisions regarding our wardrobe, make up, or hair style. In much the same way, it’s easy to look back on our past and see regrets, embarrassments, and mistakes.   Obviously we can’t change things that have happened in our pasts, but we can change the way we handle similar situations in the future.

Weed out what is bad, what is holding you back from reaching your true potential, and look back on your past as a learning tool opposed to merely looking at it as a string of bad memories.

There’s a reason why we associate aging with wisdom – as we age, we are given more and more chances to learn and develop. Sadly this development and opportunity for growth can often be hindered by being too stuck in the past. It’s an ever changing world, and we must strive to keep up while constantly bettering ourselves.


Put simply - There’s no point in harnessing yourself to the past. Instead, look to the future and consciously seek out ways to better yourself.


3. Be completely honest with yourself 

There’s a reason that self-image issues are such a problem. Just as people tell themselves that they are fine while their life spirals downward, people who struggle with image issues lie to themselves and become convinced that they are worse off than they really are.

Both ends of the spectrum can quickly get out of control and become a problem. The key is to find a healthy balance of honesty – somewhere between overlooking real problems and being brutally honest to the point of destruction.

No, you’re not perfect and no one is. But there are also people who have much larger problems than you do. You’re the best person there is at being you if it’s any consolation!

The sooner you can come to terms with your flaws and find ways to improve upon the parts of yourself that you really dislike, the sooner you can be happier in your own skin.


Put simply -  You’re awesome as you are, so just be honest with yourself – improve upon what needs to be improved and don’t let superficialities be what defines you.


4.  Find something that allows you to express yourself and your individuality

Hobbies are special to us because they allow us to be happy while doing something that we feel we are truly good at. Better yet, these personal niches allow us to express ourselves in a healthy (hopefully!) and productive way.

The better you get to know yourself and what you like, the easier it will be for others to get to know you and what you like. The more relatable you can make yourself out to be to other people the better.


Put simply - Find something you love, have fun doing it, be relatable and let the friend-flood-gates open!




No one is perfectly balanced within their own lives, but it never hurts to be aware of how you convey yourself. The more in-tune you are with yourself, the more others will be able to figure you out. Just as you don’t like to meet people that you just can’t seem to read, neither do other people.


“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

- Ralph Waldo Emerson





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